So today I’m feeling better and I have to say that it makes a huge difference in life. I keep trying to focus on the positive and that helps. I read an article By Jae Song & Tina Su talking about Jae’s experience with a problem just like I had mentioned. She talks about how she moved on and 13 steps that helped her get to a better place. I’ve done a couple of the steps and I have to say I see how it helps. If you’re in a gray place or feel like a black cloud is following you’re not alone. Check out 13 Tips to Building Self Esteem.
The one that I like the most I think is, Start Small. Small task that you can complete are huge benefits to our psyche. You feel like you can do more and it helps push out doubt and negative thoughts. This last week I’ve been pulling back and keeping focus on the small and close things. It’s helped and I stopped beating myself up. That’s hard to do but it’s almost a mantra. You just keep saying it till you believe it.
Yesterday I cleaned my apartment. I especially focused on my bedroom which is a source of embarrassment for me. I’m not a person who lives in their bedroom. I don’t have a TV in their nor do sit I read. I sleep in my bedroom. That’s it. My desk is in my bedroom though. I am sitting there now. So the desk is the center of a LOT of clutter. I”m not a neat freak by any means of the imagination but it seems like a disaster and I equated that to my life in general. Do you have a space like your desk that is about productivity and you can’t keep it under control? Well that was causing some doubt for me because I couldn’t get it under control. So I took EVERYTHING off the desk and gave it a proper cleaning. I threw things away or put them away. I still have a lot on it but I can see the majority of the desk top which makes me feel good. Oh and here’s no layer of desk now either.
So the next step is to Create a Compelling Vision. That’s going to be a little more difficult for me. It almost ranks up there with “What do you want to be when you Grow up?” Create an image of the person you want to be. I’ve always been a fan of superheroes I think my imagination gets the better of me sometimes. So now the challenge is to find a realistic image of the person I want to be. I’m thinking that the KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid) method is the best. So now to make the goal reasonable and attainable.
So as an example of my movement forward is writing this blog. I know it’s small and I can do it. There may be misspelled words or bad grammar but I did it. I wrote this and I’m going to publish it. That’s part of my goal actually. To write here on my blog expelling doubt and negative feelings will be a way for me to not hold all this in and feed on it. I welcome any comments and feedback. It’s nice to know that others out there deal with the same feelings.
I’ll boil down the 13 points but you should go read, 13 Tips to Building Self Esteem.
- Start Small
- Create a Compelling Vision
- Do Something that Scares You
- Do Something You Are Good At
- Set Goals
- Help Others Feel Good About Themselves
- Get Clarity on Life Areas
- Create a Plan
- Get Motivated
- Get External Compliments
- Affirmations & Introspection
- No More Comparisons
Have a good Sunday and get out in the sun if you can. I’m here in San Francisco and the weather is nice. The point is, get out and do something that makes you happy or content. It doesn’t matter what that is, it’s just important that you DO IT.